It is OKAY to NOT be okay

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You may be in a place in your life right now where things are not looking good. Anxiety is eating at you, your job may not be your favorite. There’s a lot on your plate right now.

Maybe that’s not exactly what you’re going through, but I’m sure you’ve been working hard. You’ve been dealing with a lot. Everyone has their own struggles, their own issues to work through, and sometimes things don’t turn out the way you want them to.

It’s okay to say that you’re not okay. Yes, that’s right. Your feelings and emotions are valid.

It took me a while to learn this simple fact. I cope by constantly pushing my emotions down because I was terrified of people disapproving of me in some way. I pushed all of my emotions down, but that didn’t mean that they disappeared.

They were still there. They never went away, and by pushing them away, I just delayed the explosion. Expressing your emotions is never a bad thing, and if you’re not okay, it’s okay to say so.

Whatever age and generation you are apart of, we deal with a lot in modern society. We have jobs, bills, families, friendships, and relationships, all of which come with their own complexities. Juggling all of these responsibilities takes a lot of physical and emotional energy.

We all have our limits, and sometimes those responsibilities push us over the edge of those limits.

Sometimes things don’t go our way. Sometimes we are not okay.

Being vulnerable and admitting that we are not okay when we project every appearance of being the opposite is scary, but as we all know, life isn’t all rainbows and cute baby animals.

When we are not okay and we know it, maybe you are going through a life altering experience. The best way to move forward is to move through. Feeling the emotions you are feeling, is the only way to let them run their course.

It’s okay to feel negative emotions; those negative emotions balance out our positive ones.

As children, we were often punished if we do something an authority figure interprets as “bad,” rewarded if we do something “good.” However, maintaining a façade, pretending to be “good” all the time is, to put it bluntly, exhausting.

It’s okay to be different; it’s okay to feel things. It’s okay to want to cry, to be angry, to feel negative emotions. This is especially true for the males of our world, we portray a lot of emotion of any kind as a weakness.

Having emotions and feelings doesn’t make you weak. Having emotions and feelings makes you human. It’s okay not to be okay. You may say that you don’t see an end to your pain, but as I discovered, the only way out of your pain is through it.

Yes, it sucks. Yes, it’s painful, but you will come out stronger for having experienced that pain, no matter what you’re dealing with right now. Yes, it’s easier to write it without ever having been in your shoes, and I’m not going to pretend to know what you’re going through.

You might think that admitting you’re not okay might not get you anywhere in life, that you have to suck it up and keep going. There’s nothing wrong with that; admitting that you’re not okay and knowing that it’s okay is the first step to letting go of the pain.

It’s okay to be in pain; no one expects you to be happy all the time. We all know that the carefully curated social media feeds we all manage are not representative of our entire reality.

Just know that it’s okay to fully experience whatever it is you’re feeling.

If you’re loving life right now, that’s great. By the same token, if you’re not okay, I want you to know that that’s okay too. Like I said earlier, your feelings are valid, no matter what they are.

If you’re going through a hard time, seek out the support of people who love you. Take as much time as you need to feel the emotion and recover. No matter what the external world tells you, you don’t have to be perfect, and it’s okay if you don’t feel okay.

Take the time you need to rest, recharge, and breathe. Take care of yourself the best way you know how. You know yourself better than anyone.

Have a great week Warrior, wherever you are today.